An Exercise To Overcome Limiting Beliefs & Take Control Of Your Life

Summary: Discover the power of paradoxes in challenging our assumptions and expanding our perspective. Learn how to nurture a growth mindset through humility and an open mind. Explore a practical exercise to examine your beliefs and break free from self-imposed limitations. 3 Minute Read



Life in Contrasts


If you have been following this newsletter and my social media content, you may have noticed I like to write about paradoxes.
Paradoxes represent contrasts and, to me, life itself is a continuous series of contrasts that shape our view of the world.
What do I mean by that? Think about it.
How can you truly understand what love is unless you’ve experienced heartbreak?
How can you appreciate genuine joy without first enduring immense suffering?
How can you know the real meaning of success without having tasted failure?
How can you fully value your health without first experiencing sickness?

As human beings, we are limited by our own perspectives. We simply know what we know.
At times, it can be challenging to break free from our bubbles and gain a broader outlook.
This is why people can complain about the food at an all inclusive resort in the Caribbean, while children scrape the bottom of public trash cans just a few miles away.
I always try to empathize with all individuals. I believe there is power in a non-judgmental approach when trying to understand someone’s actions, reactions, attitude, and opinions.
We are all influenced by our environment, and understanding this concept can increase our compassion and empathy toward other human beings.
Recognizing that life is filled with inherent contrasts can be a valuable starting point to developing and nurturing this perspective.
If we were exposed to more contrasts during childhood, it would likely lead us to live a more balanced and harmonious life.
Contrasts surround us. Our lives, from childhood to adulthood, are about discovering these opposites and forming our own views of the world.

The Power Behind Paradoxes & A Growth Mindset


Life is paradoxical, and paradoxes happen to be my favorite types of contrasts.
I believe there’s immense power in examining something we take for a fact, to realize that our understanding of the concept was flawed all along.
The liberation that comes with understanding paradoxes is mind-blowing. It is a very humbling experience.
I’m also a strong advocate for nurturing a growth mindset, which is the belief that our qualities and skills can be improved through effort and practice.
Nurturing a growth mindset requires both humility and an open mind. It’s simply not possible without them.
Humility is essential to achieve continuous learning, as you must never consider yourself superior. When we see ourselves above others, we fail to appreciate the true value they offer.
An open mind is equally important. When we take something as certain, without leaving any room for exploration, our world just becomes a whole lot smaller.
With that said, how can paradoxes help us develop a growth mindset?
By exploring and understanding them, we come to the conclusion that even the things we take for facts can often be challenged and proven wrong.
Here’s a story that will help illustrate this concept and apply it to your own life.

The Closed Jar Effect


A group of people locked a group of bees inside a jar and closed the lid.
The jar was left closed for 48 hours, and during this time the bees kept flying up trying to escape without success.
After the two days passed, they opened the lid offering the bees a clear path out of their enclosure.
To everyone’s surprise, none of the bees flew out. In such a short period of time, these bees were conditioned to believe in a new reality, one that limited them.
A belief, established in a matter of hours, shaped the bees’ view of their world, hindering their ability to fly.
The lesson is this:
Repeated exposure to negative or uncontrollable situations can lead to a belief that escape or change is impossible, even once circumstances change.
Our own beliefs and perceptions can shape our reality and either limit or expand our capabilities.
The stories you choose to believe are the stories that will shape your life!
Take some time to examine your own beliefs and challenge any self-imposed limitations that may be hindering your personal growth and development.

A Practical Exercise


Think about someone you have known for a long time. I encourage you to challenge your assumptions about this person.
Is there something you have taken for granted that may not be true?
Extend this exercise to anything or anyone else in your life. Ask yourself, ‘What am I missing here? What haven’t I seen before?’
Even during mundane tasks like brushing your teeth or washing the dishes, practice asking yourself this question. ‘What is here that I may have never noticed before?’
Live your life with a heightened sense of curiosity, always seeking novelty in the familiar. Challenge your assumptions by learning to find the new in the old, and the old in the new.
This week’s newsletter is aimed to inspire some deep reflections within you.
Pause for a moment and ask yourself, ‘Is everything I think I know true? Are my beliefs absolute facts, or am I leaving room for exploration?’
An open mind, by definition, is the willingness to consider something without prejudice, to keep the door open for exploration.
The wisest thing we can do is know enough to know that we don’t know. Read that sentence again…
If we approach life with a sense of “maybe” instead of holding firm convictions, we’re likely to experience continuous personal growth.
Why? Because we train our minds to perceive learning opportunities all around us.
We also cultivate a receptive attitude, always open to learning from anyone and anything at any given moment.
There are no absolute rights or wrongs in life.
Being aware of this is essential to understand how you can literally shape your reality.
I hope today’s insights empower you to take control of your life.

Uncovering Your True Self: An Uncomfortable But Necessary Journey

Summary: Discovering who you are beyond your profession is uncomfortable but necessary. Learn about the challenges of finding identity post-career and the importance of aligning with your core values. Practical exercises provided to help you uncover your true self and choose a fulfilling career path. 4 Minute Read



A Journey of Rediscovery


The biggest questions and doubts I had after retiring from basketball were around:
IDENTITY – “Who am I outside of being an athlete?”
ABILITY – “What am I good at outside of playing basketball?”
My journey before choosing life coaching as my next path was not easy. The search for identity after leaving a long career behind has its own unique challenges. In many ways, and although I have chosen a new career, that search is still a very active pursuit for me.
How do you discover your true self, regardless of what you do for a living?
The work to uncover the answers can be extremely uncomfortable.
Think about it… You are trying to build something new, past your thirties, after doing only one things for your entire life previous to this point, diving vulnerably into uncharted waters, not really knowing what to expect. It sounds scary, doesn’t it?
Challenging times are the perfect teacher, sure, but that doesn’t mean the lessons will just show up magically in front of you. You have to put in the work to learn them. And that is exactly what I’ve been doing for the past three months with my coach.
I’m fully committed to digging as deep as I have ever dug before. Every week, I’m taking on the uncomfortable task of exploring the darkest corners of my deepest self, leaning into my fears and limiting beliefs, trying to accept them for what they are, hoping to come out stronger on the other side.


A Powerful Question


Now that you have the context, let me tell you about something that happened today. This morning, my daughter came up to me after breakfast and asked me a simple (yet powerful) question:
“Dad, what do you want to be when you grow up?”
My first thought was that the universe truly has a way of working in mysterious ways. How much of a coincidence is it that she would ask me that question, out of nowhere, right at a time when I’m searching for answers?
I took advantage of the opportunity and asked her a question back: “That is a great question, Elena. What do you see me as when I grow up?”
She said, “I see you as a good dad, a good cook, and good at games.”
Often, when adults ask kids about what they want to be when they grow up, they encourage them to pick a profession. Kids may say something like, “I want to be a pirate,” or “I want to be a mermaid.” Our response to them tends to be, “that is great, but what about a real profession, like a doctor or a nurse?”
Why do we do that?
My daughter’s genuine answer is a proven testament that kids, within their still untainted honesty and genuineness, see people as much more than what they do for a living.
The fact that she said “a good dad” first filled my heart, because that is what I want my legacy to be.
“A good cook” speaks to the fact that I have a passion for sharing the kitchen with those I love, and she sees that every time I cook for her.
“And good at games” may refer to my basketball past. Notice how she mentioned that aspect of myself last.


The Takeaway


Sometimes, we get so caught up in superficial areas of our jobs or careers, stressing out over things that matter little to nothing in the big spectrum of life. I know I’m guilty of it, at times forgetting that what matters is always deeper.
You can be the best lawyer in the world. Are you also the best father you can be? You can be a renowned doctor. Are you also the best human you can be? Are you adding value to this world in your unique and authentic way?
In your search for identity and a new career path, it’s necessary to pick a destination. However, you should always keep in mind that no past or future career will ever define you.
Look deeper within yourself. What are your true core values? What are your strongest beliefs? What does the ideal world you envision look like?
We all need something bigger than ourselves that keeps us moving forward, and I am sorry to break it to you, but a job or career will never give you that.
As a basketball player, I felt that my purpose was never to just throw a ball inside a hoop. I saw my sports career as a platform to set an example for other people through hard work, perseverance, responsibility, and full dedication to a common goal with my team.
Being an athlete was always just a part of who I am, not everything I am.
I say this confidently now, but it took me years to understand this. And today, although I know I am more than just a basketball player, I’m still trying to figure out what that means for me, genuinely and authentically.
I share this to show you this is a process that takes time, patience, and a lot of work. In a way, and because we are ever-changing and evolving creatures, and because the world around us is constantly shifting, the search for your true self may be a never-ending pursuit.
And maybe that makes it our most relevant and meaningful task in this life – to be on a constant pursuit of our authentic best version.
This morning, Elena gave me some of the answers I have been looking for. I am “a dad, a cook, and I’m good at games.”


A Few Exercises to Try During Your Search for Answers


I encourage you to do some self-reflection next time you spend time alone with yourself. Try to answer these powerful questions:
What do I truly value in life?
Thinking about the people I admire, what common attributes characterize them?
If I could create one rule for everyone in the world to follow, what would that be?
If I was on my death bed with the people I love around me, what would be my last words to them?
How do I want people to talk about me when I’m not in the room?

Here are two simple exercises you can do to start uncovering your true self:

Exercise #1


Make a list of all your titles (father, husband, son, caring, loving, moody, pessimistic, etc.)
Using your previous list, make another list with the titles you would want to keep, and add those that are not there and you would want to have.
Lastly, make a list with the titles that you do not want in your life.

Reflect on these lists and find practical ways to become more of what you want to become, and less of what you don’t want to be to be.

Exercise #2


Find these three people in your life:


1. A family member.
2. An honest friend (someone who will keep it real with you).
3. A mentor (someone who influenced your career in a significant way).


Ask them the following questions:


1. How do you see me outside of my job/career?
2. What do you see as my strengths and weaknesses?
3. How do you see me making an impact in this world?


Reflect on their answers and what you think about yourself.
Do the answers align? If not, why?


These exercises can serve as great practical starting points to uncovering your true self, and choosing a job or career that align with whom you truly are.
If you need help finding the answers, please reach out. You can book a free call with me, and we can work to gain clarity around these topics.

The Key To Happiness? Stop Chasing It – The Hedonic Paradox

Summary: Discover the key to true happiness through the concept of the Hedonic Paradox. Learn why chasing happiness can be counterproductive and elusive. Embrace a new approach to live a more fulfilling life, and gain insights on navigating challenges and finding happiness along the way. 5 Minute Read



The Hedonic Paradox


In the field of happiness, this is a puzzling dilemma. The concept refers to a strange phenomenon that many of us experience, yet fail to identify or recognize. The paradox suggests that the more we chase happiness, the more elusive it becomes.


In other words, it states that happiness should not be viewed as an end goal, but as a result of doing that which is meaningful to us along the way. It implies that, when we set happiness as our ultimate goal, we deviate our focus, preventing ourselves from enjoying the journey.


The Playfield of Happiness – A Lesson From Team Sports


In my former life as a professional athlete, I experienced this paradox firsthand. Sports, especially team sports, are in many ways a representation of life itself. They are filled with ups and downs, wins and losses, excitement and disappointments. Each practice and game, like every day of our lives, is different, presenting new challenges and opportunities.


In my pursuit of being the best I could be, I found myself chasing the happiness of standing on top of the mountain, the respect and recognition I thought would come with being the best and winning a championship. I put immense pressure on myself, expecting to excel in every game, in every practice, constantly focusing solely on the end goal.


In doing so, for the longest time, I lost sight of the joy of the game, the camaraderie of the team, and the opportunity for personal growth that comes with each challenge. I was so fixated on that end goal, from such a young age, that somewhere along the way I deviated from the path that got me there in the first place – my love for basketball itself.


The Pressure of Expectations and Disappointments


The pressure to achieve this illusion of happiness made me more prone to feeling disappointed. When we start comparing our reality with the ideal state we have envisioned, the gap between the two can lead to feelings of unhappiness. This does not mean you should lower your dreams and expectations, but being aware of the paradox can help us gain perspective and realize that, if we don’t enjoy the journey, what is the point of chasing that goal after all?


In the realm of sports, not every game can be won, not every performance can be your best, and understanding this meant a turning point for me. I cannot say I ever mastered this paradox, but becoming aware helped me, at times, shift my focus from solely winning to appreciating the process. If you can implement this mindset shift in your game and in your life, it can potentially make you a better player, and someone who lives a more joyful life as a consequence.


Changing the Game – A New Approach to Happiness


The key to dealing with the Hedonic Paradox is not to abandon the pursuit of happiness but to redefine it. It’s about finding happiness in the journey, not just the destination. It’s about setting realistic expectations and not putting undue pressure on ourselves.


Viktor Frankl said, “Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself.”


In sports and in life, it’s essential to celebrate small victories, cherish the effort behind the struggle, and find joy in the process by being crystal clear about why we do what we do. What is your passion and your motivation for doing what you do? Shift your focus toward the answers you find about your journey, not your desired destination.


The Takeaway


The Hedonic Paradox teaches us that the pursuit of happiness can sometimes be a tricky road, particularly if we place happiness as our end goal. But remember, life, like sports, is not just about the championship title; it’s about the games you play, the people you meet, the lessons you learn, and the player (person) you become.


Take a moment to assess your pursuit. Are you chasing an illusion of happiness, or are you embracing the journey that shapes your unique story?


As you navigate through the game of life, remember that it’s not about being the best, but giving your best. It’s not about perfection, but about progress. Life isn’t merely a race to the finish line; it’s a journey to be embraced and, ideally, lived to the fullest.


This is your game, your life, your happiness. Play it well, not for the applause at the end, but for the love of it all, for the growth it brings, and for the joy it sparks in your heart.


Howard Thurman said, “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is more people who have come alive.”


Pick a journey that makes you come alive, and start traveling.

Winning Isn’t the Goal: Hidden Lessons Behind Championship Glory

Summary: Explore the unexpected lessons from a professional basketball player’s championship win, revealing the importance of embracing the journey over the destination, maintaining a growth mindset, and appreciating each moment for personal fulfillment and success. 4 Minute Read



How Winning A Championship Changed My Perspective


This week, I want to talk to you about some things I learned after winning my first championship as a professional basketball player in Italy. I hope these lessons are insightful and eye-opening for your own personal journey.


During my pursuit of championship glory, I discovered something profound, something that forever changed my perception of success. Since I was a kid, I had always envisioned holding a championship trophy up high, believing that the moment would be the culmination of all my efforts, the ultimate reward for my sacrifices. But quickly following my first championship victory, I found myself grappling with a surprising paradox.


The Paradox of Achievement


It was my fourth season playing in Italy. The path to the championship was built with relentless self-discipline, fueled by a vision of glory and the motivation of fighting for a common goal alongside my teammates. Every drill, every pre-season game, every early-morning and late-night practice was a step toward that vision, a true testament to our collective will to win.


When the last game of the season ended with a victory, it was incredible, a dream come true. But the excitement was fleeting, and everything soon returned to the regular routine much faster than I had expected. The glory of the championship was short-lived, a surprising contrast to the challenging grind of the long journey.


In the wake of victory, a subtle yet very real disappointment set in. The view from the top of the mountain and the feeling of happiness were not as lasting as I had imagined. The joy of the championship seemed insignificant in comparison to the long season invested in the pursuit. It did not make sense to me.


The Art Of Fulfillment


I remember asking myself back then, how is this possible? More importantly, how do we navigate this dilemma? If this is what we strive for, relying solely on the joy of a victory, but then those feelings of joy last so little, why do we even pursue this?


I asked myself, “what could be the best way to cultivate lasting fulfillment?”


First, I realized that I had to embrace the process. Rather than anchoring our happiness to the attainment of our goals, we must learn to find joy in the journey. Cherish the camaraderie of your team, the gradual improvements in your skills and your craft, and the pure love of the game. The goal is never a destination; the journey is the goal.


Secondly, I learned to find motivation in striving for constant evolution. This is when I started to intentionally develop and nurture a growth mindset. The achievement of a goal should never mean the end of our journey. The end goal should be to continue to grow, chase bigger dreams, and constantly embrace new challenges. Our pursuits wouldn’t make much sense otherwise.


Lastly, I learned that, in every moment, there is something to appreciate. Whether it’s a practice session or a championship match, aim to find joy in the little things. Celebrate each win, however small, and honor each step of your unique journey.


The Journey Matters


Recognizing this paradox of achievement can shift our perspective; I know it did for me. Goals give us direction, but they should not define our worth.


Learn to detach your self-worth from success. Our value should not be tied to our victories. Our worthiness extends far beyond our achievements and lies in our inherent human qualities. This is the reason why you should always focus on the journey of self-improvement, not on reaching a specific destination.


Also, aim to intentionally expand your identity. Don’t lock yourself inside a box, and most importantly, don’t let anybody else define who you are. We are more than the sum of our achievements. We are a unique mix of experiences, roles, and relationships. I was never just a basketball player, but a teammate, a student of the game, a part of a larger community. I was also a father, a husband, a son, a brother, and a friend outside of my career. At times, I lost sight of that, and it affected me on the long run. I’m telling you this so you can learn from my mistakes.


Lastly, as I mentioned, always aim to cultivate gratitude. While striving for our goals, we must never lose sight of our blessings. Gratitude anchors us in the present and offers a broader perspective on our pursuits. By practicing gratitude intentionally, you will create abundance in your life and focusing on the process will be much easier.


Finding Balance To Navigate This Paradox


From that moment on, holding the championship trophy stopped being the end goal and, in my mind, it became a point on the journey. I realized that the real value lay in the process – the countless hours of practice, the relationships made, the journey of personal growth and improvement.


Ironically, by shifting my focus and mindset, the year I won my second championship in Italy the joy lasted longer and my appreciation for the achievement was much greater.


To truly navigate the paradox of achievement, we must strike a balance. We must continue to set goals, but not at the expense of our present joy. The journey is as valuable, if not more, than the destination.


Consider your goals. Are they serving you, or are they keeping your focus off your present journey? Are you merely enduring the journey for the sake of the destination? Be honest with yourself. It’s the only way to do something about it if the need to make a change arises.


Life isn’t merely a race to the finish line; it’s a journey to be embraced and, ideally, lived to the fullest. Let’s not wait for the final whistle to celebrate like I did when I won my first championship. Take every single moment as an opportunity to embrace the game of life.

Mastering the Art of Living in the Present Moment

Summary: Explore the journey of personal growth and the power of staying present by utilizing the technique of Notice, Shift, Rewire, as discussed in an insightful conversation between Jay Shetty and Mel Robbins on the ON Purpose podcast. 5 Minute Read



An Insightful Conversation


This morning, on my daily walk, I found myself tuned into an episode of my favorite podcast, ON Purpose by Jay Shetty. The conversation unfolded with Mel Robbins, an authority figure in self-confidence and empowerment, and a #1 New York Times Best Selling Author.


When Jay asked Mel about the most challenging aspects she’s currently working on in her life, her answer was simple yet powerful: “happiness.” The response set the foundation for an insightful conversation about learning life lessons the hard way and understanding the concept of happiness.


The Power of Letting Go


Mel shared a personal story of waking up next to her 22-year-old daughter, who usually lives hundreds of miles away in California. A moment of happiness, she recalls, soon turned into a sad realization of her daughter’s absence in her daily life.


She said that “one of the hardest things to do when you love somebody so much is understanding that you have to let them go.” This is the path to their growth, a feeling many parents can relate to.


Leaving the Nest: A Personal Journey


Why am I sharing this story with you? Because many of us, like myself, can likely empathize with this feeling from the perspective of the one who leaves the nest to chase their dreams.


I was 18 when I officially took on my journey to become a professional basketball player, leaving the comfort of my home behind to study and play basketball at Temple University. But despite living my dream, for the first few months I found my mind focusing on feelings of loneliness, cultural shock, and the sense that something was missing.


Even though I was doing what I wanted most since I was a little kid, I would cry myself to sleep every night. Why did that happen?


The Million-Dollar Question: Why Do We Cling to Unhappiness?


During the interview, Mel reflected on a thought-provoking question that resonated with me: “Why is it that most of us are always gripping onto the thing that makes us unhappy?”


Often, we default to focusing on loss or absence, worrying about what will happen in the future or what we left behind from our past, instead of celebrating our current blessings.


What is it about this “campaign of misery,” as she calls it? Why do we always default to the loss and what’s not there, instead of focusing on the fact that, here we are, lucky enough to have what we have and to be doing what we love?


Embracing the Uncomfortable


In the face of these existential questions, I don’t have a clear answer for you. What I can tell you, however, is what my experience has taught me. I’ve realized that trying to escape these uncomfortable thoughts only strengthens their negative impact.


Rather, I encourage you to embrace them. By acknowledging these thoughts, we can intentionally shift our mindset to focus on the present moment. Here’s a powerful tool to help you with that.


“Notice, Shift, Rewire”: An Exercise to Staying Present


This is where the technique of Notice, Shift, Rewire comes into play, a powerful coaching tool to help keep your focus in the present moment. Next time you come across any of the feelings described in this newsletter or similar:


1. NOTICE that your energy or attention (thoughts, feelings) is divided and identify the distraction or interference.
2. After noticing, SHIFT gears and bring your attention back to the task at hand. Be mindful but not upset, angry, or judgmental.
3. Lastly, REWIRE by immersing yourself in the experience of engaging with the one thing you are busy with at that particular moment.


Harnessing the Power of Now


With practice, this exercise has the potential to rewire your brain, allowing you to stay fully present in the moment. The beauty of the present lies in its fleeting nature, in the joy and sorrow it brings, and in the lessons it teaches us.


Our journey through life is defined by moments of happiness and sadness, moments of being together and being apart, moments of dreaming and achieving. It’s through these contrasts that we find meaning, growth, and ultimately, a sense of fulfillment.


So, the next time you find yourself clinging to the negatives or worrying about what’s not there, remember Mel Robbins‘ words and the technique of Notice, Shift, Rewire.


Harness the power of now, for it’s all we truly have.

Discovering Your Mission and Purpose After a Long Career: Inspirational Lessons from Kobe Bryant and Lewis Hamilton

Summary: Explore Kobe Bryant and Lewis Hamilton’s inspiring paths to purpose beyond sports. Learn to embrace life transitions, find passions, and create a lasting impact. 4 Minute Read



An Athlete’s Post-Career Challenges


The world of professional sports often leaves athletes facing an immense void upon retirement. The thrill of performing in front of thousands of people is a feeling that’s hard to replace once the final whistle blows.


One of the biggest post-career challenges for many athletes lies in finding an endeavor that not only inspires, but also satisfies their competitive spirit and sense of accomplishment. Kobe Bryant and Lewis Hamilton, two legends in their respective fields, embody the importance of discovering a mission and purpose beyond the game to overcome these feelings. Today, I want to share the lessons I’ve learned from their experiences, hoping they’ll serve you as much as they have served me.


Lewis Hamilton’s Quest for Purpose – Finding a Mission Beyond Racing



Lewis Hamilton, a British racing driver deemed as one of the greatest Formula 1 competitors of all time, has forged a remarkable career, securing multiple world championships and shattering records. Known for his tenacious driving and impressive consistency, Hamilton has earned his place among racing legends.


During a podcast interview, he expressed his struggle to find activities that could replace racing’s excitement as he feels retirement approaching. He emphasized the significance of identifying passions and causes that are equally rewarding.


“Most likely, nothing will ever match being in the stadium or at the race, competing at the pinnacle of the sport,” said Hamilton. “Instead, I’m focusing on things that I believe will be just as rewarding. That’s something I found, for example, with Mission 44.”


Making a Difference with Mission 44


Mission 44, Hamilton’s foundation, exemplifies how he found a purpose greater than himself. By providing underprivileged children with educational opportunities and resources, he uncovered a new way to channel his passion and energy. For Hamilton, the reward of impacting these children’s lives far surpasses the thrill of winning a race.


“Meeting kids at schools, having conversations with families and parents who are facing difficult times and want to create the best opportunities for their kids. For me, that’s way more rewarding than winning any race or Championship,” said Hamilton.


From the Court to Storytelling – How Kobe Bryant Pivoted to a New Mission



Kobe Bryant, an iconic American basketball player, spent his entire 20-year NBA career with the Los Angeles Lakers. With incredible scoring ability, work ethic, and a relentless competitive drive, Bryant garnered five NBA championships, 18 All-Star selections, and two Olympic gold medals. Though he tragically passed away in 2020, his legacy endures, inspiring future generations.

After retiring from basketball, Bryant found fulfillment in creating inspiring sports-based content and sharing stories that motivate young people. He pursued his passion for storytelling, ultimately winning an Oscar for a short film. His dedication to inspiring future generations demonstrated his ability to find a mission beyond the game of basketball. Storytelling fueled his passion and sense of purpose after retirement.

“The most important thing is to try and inspire people so they can be great in whatever they want to do,” said Bryant shortly before his passing. “We have to be constantly evolving, constantly growing. That’s the key to anything in life, really.”


Preparing for the Transition – The Importance of Planning Ahead


Both Lewis Hamilton and Kobe Bryant recognized the need to plan and prepare for their transitions. Many retired athletes experience emotional turmoil, often because they haven’t taken enough time to explore their next steps. By pursuing other passions and searching for a purpose beyond themselves, both Bryant and Hamilton were able to build fulfilling lives outside their sport.

“A lot of athletes I know say, particularly when they retire, that they feel like everything kind of falls apart,” said Hamilton. “I’m trying to learn from those athletes’ experiences to prevent it from happening to me. I constantly try to find other things I’m passionate about.”


Lessons and Takeaways – Discovering Your Mission and Purpose


Transitions are an inevitable part of life, and embracing these changes is essential for personal growth and evolution. Accepting change and actively planning for the future can help individuals navigate life’s transitions more effectively, leading to a more fulfilling and meaningful life.

Kobe Bryant and Lewis Hamilton’s journeys serve as powerful reminders that it’s possible to forge a meaningful and impactful path after stepping away from a long career. By identifying passions and dedicating time and energy to a cause or mission that transcended their initial success, they have managed to create lasting, positive impacts on the lives of others.

Their stories can inspire those at a crossroads or preparing for the next stage in their careers. Whether it’s discovering new hobbies, volunteering, or pursuing a lifelong dream, you too can find a purpose that provides fulfillment, motivation, and a sense of belonging.

Kobe Bryant and Lewis Hamilton’s experiences remind us that life’s transitions can be opportunities to grow, learn, and find deeper meaning in our lives. Let their stories inspire you to uncover your own mission, purpose, and passion as you navigate the transitions in your life.

Consistency and Long-Term Vision to Turn Your Dreams Into Reality — My Experience Running 1.5 Miles Daily

Summary: Discover the power of consistency and long-term vision in achieving self-improvement goals, as exemplified by a daily 1.5-mile run commitment and overcoming negativity. Learn how small, consistent actions can compound into significant progress over time. 5 Minute Read



The Journey of Self-Improvement


Taking on a journey of self-improvement is no easy task, as it requires a great deal of commitment, resilience, and discipline. Along the way, our environment and the people we interact with also play a crucial role. And sometimes, even the most well-meaning friends or family members may unintentionally dampen our motivation with their reactions or comments.


To overcome these challenges and stay focused on our goals, we must unlock the transformative power of consistency and cultivate a long-term vision. In this article, I will share my personal experience of committing to a daily 1.5-mile run and give you my insights on navigating negativity and overcoming setbacks.


Let us dive into the lessons I have learned and the strategies you can adopt to nurture lasting growth, unwavering dedication, and a strong belief in yourself and your dreams.


My Running Commitment Inspired by James Clear’s Atomic Habits


After retiring from professional basketball, I struggled to establish a consistent exercise routine that suited my new lifestyle. A month ago, however, inspired by James Clear’s book Atomic Habits, I committed to running 1.5 miles every day for six months.


While this commitment may seem modest—requiring only 15 to 20 minutes of daily running—it embodies Clear’s principle of small, continuous improvements that lead to significant results over time.


Upon sharing my new running goal with friends and family, I was met with a range of reactions. Some were encouraging, while others, less supportive, included comments like, “You’re only running 1.5 miles? That’s nothing!” and “Just 15 minutes a day? You used to be a professional athlete!”


Despite these remarks, I chose to stay focused on my desired identity and the long-term benefits of my consistent running habit. Here is how.


The Power of Compounding: A Numbers Game


Although running 1.5 miles daily may not seem impressive to some, let us break down the numbers to reveal the power of compounding. As a former professional basketball player, I’m all about numbers and statistics. When presented correctly, they can help you view things from a different angle:


  • 1.5 miles every day for a month = 45 miles.
  • 1.5 miles every day for six months = 273 miles.
  • 1.5 miles every day for a year = 547 miles.


Impressive, don’t you think? But this applies to more than just running. What if you decided to dedicate 30 minutes per day to learning a new skill?


  • 30 minutes per day for a month = 15 hours.
  • 30 minutes per day for six months = 91 hours.
  • 30 minutes per day for a year = 183 hours.


And if you wanted to save more money but didn’t know where to start?


  • $100 saved per week for a month = $400.
  • $100 saved per week for six months = $2,400.
  • $100 saved per week for a year = $5,200.


Focusing on the short term can cause people to doubt their efforts and give up. I mean, 1.5 miles, 30 minutes, or $100 doesn’t seem like much. But by staying consistent and keeping your eyes on long-term growth and the power of compounding, you will realize that 1.5 miles, 30 minutes, and $100 can add up to incredible levels. In just one year, you will have made significant progress toward your most desired goals.


A Mindset Shift That Will Revolutionize Your Approach


Another key to turning your dreams into reality is focusing on the journey from the perspective of the person you want to become. For me, focusing on the journey doesn’t mean obsessing over the next scheduled run. That’s when emotions can sway us, and our minds start whispering excuses like, “Let’s skip today and make up for it tomorrow.” Instead, adopt the identity of the person you aspire to be and align your actions with that identity.


To create identity-based habits, we need to start by asking ourselves who we want to become and what actions someone with that identity would take. For example, instead of focusing on the goal of losing weight (an outcome) or running 1.5 miles daily (a process), I concentrate on becoming a healthy and energized person (an identity).


By making this shift in perspective, we are more likely to stick to our habits and routines because they become a part of who we are. Our actions are then an expression of our identity, and we naturally act in alignment with our beliefs about ourselves. This approach creates a sense of ownership and consistency, ultimately fostering long-lasting behavioral change and helping us achieve our goals more effectively.


In my case, I aspire to be someone who prioritizes physical health, enabling me to be fully present in my daily life and provide the energy my kids need from me. This mindset shift revolutionized my approach.


Discover Your Powerful “Why”


My motivation lies in knowing that staying in shape will allow me to have the energy my children require from me. This is the most powerful “why” behind my goal of running 1.5 miles a day. Whenever I feel challenged by my emotions or my mind tries to negotiate, I remind myself that I’m pursuing something much bigger than the run itself.


The next time you feel discouraged or find yourself bargaining, think about why you’re doing what you’re doing and the person you want to become, and apply long-term vision to your goals. Reflect on the power of compounding and how small, consistent actions can accumulate into significant results over time. Remember, the reason you commit to something daily transcends anything anyone might say to you.


While negative comments from others can be disheartening, it’s crucial to remember they don’t define your journey or potential. As Jalen Hurts once said, “I had a purpose before everyone else had an opinion.” Use these moments to reflect on why you started and appreciate how far you’ve come.


Dare to Dream Big


By harnessing the power of consistency and nurturing a long-term vision, you can overcome any obstacle on your path to self-improvement. Never doubt your strength and determination to achieve your dreams. And never underestimate the power of small, daily actions in shaping our lives and bringing us closer to the person we want to become.


Stay focused, stay committed, and remember that every step forward counts, no matter how small it may seem. Keep pushing forward, and I guarantee that you will soon start turning your dreams into reality.

6 Mental Habits of Successful Athletes to Take Control of Your Progress and Level Up Your Life

Summary: Discover six mental habits of successful athletes that can help you level up your performance: positive self-talk, visualization, finding a larger purpose, measuring persistence and consistency, focusing on the process, and taking responsibility for your journey. 5 Minute Read



6 Mental Habits of Elite Athletes


As someone who has been surrounded by professional athletes almost my entire life, I have learned that success in sports, and in life, comes down to the right mindset. Whether you are an athlete or not, the habits and behaviors that the best athletes in the world exhibit can help you take control of your progress and level up your performance.


Here are six mental habits and behaviors that I’ve seen time and time again from the world’s top athletes:


1. Positive Self-Talk


The voice inside your head can be your biggest ally or your worst enemy. Athletes who excel understand the power of positive self-talk and use it to their advantage. Instead of criticizing themselves, they encourage and motivate themselves with positive affirmations.


During my basketball career, my favorite teammates not only mastered this behavior but were also great at helping others on the team stay positive and encouraged.


2. The Power of Visualization


Visualization is a powerful tool that can help athletes improve their performance by mentally rehearsing their actions. Meditation, for example, is a technique that can help you improve this powerful habit.


During my basketball career, I would visualize the game in my head the night before. This can be hard to accomplish at first and requires practice, patience, and consistency. But once you experience the power behind it firsthand, it can become a powerful tool. Whether you’re an athlete or not, visualizing yourself achieving your goals can help you stay focused and motivated.


3. Finding a Purpose – Do it for Something Bigger than Yourself


Athletes who are driven by a larger purpose are more likely to succeed. The clearest example of this is Olympic athletes or those representing their countries at any world event like the soccer World Cup. Most of these athletes don’t get paid to play at these tournaments, yet they compete with more grit than they would playing for their teams.


Similarly, finding a larger purpose in life can help you stay motivated and focused on your goals. Find your “why,” and there’s no obstacle you won’t be able to overcome.


4. Intentionally Measure your Persistence and Consistency


Successful athletes understand that consistency is key. They are also brutally honest with themselves. The best of the best track their progress and hold themselves accountable for their actions. Most importantly, they never negotiate with themselves. They understand that there are no shortcuts, and that there’s nothing more important to reaching your goals than being self-accountable.


Similarly, setting measurable goals and tracking your progress can help you stay motivated and focused on any goal you set for yourself.


5. Become Obsessed with the Process


You’ve probably heard this before, but the most successful athletes are able to focus on the journey rather than the destination. They are constantly looking for ways to improve and push themselves to be the best they can be. It’s unlikely that you will find joy in everything you do, no matter what job or career you have. Athletes face challenges and do things they don’t enjoy all the time.


When I played, I struggled with cold tubs after practice, but I did it because I knew it would help my body recover before our next training session. The key is to find a balance between doing the things you enjoy most and those that are necessary but less fun.


6. Own your Journey and Take Full Responsibility for the Outcome


Successful athletes understand they are in control of their own success. They take full responsibility for their actions and are accountable for their own results. Additionally, they understand the importance of keeping your focus on the things you can control while not stressing over what’s out of your hands.


During my career, there were times when I struggled with the decisions my coaches would make. I felt like I deserved more playing time, for example. But instead of focusing on my coach’s decision (which I had no control over) I would turn my focus inward. I’ would practice more and harder to prove to my coach that I could better help our team by being on the court and not on the bench. Similarly, owning your journey, taking responsibility for your own success, and focusing on what you can control will help you stay motivated and focused.


“It’s Not About You”


One thing I’ve learned over my years in the world of collegiate and professional sports is that it’s never about you. I was introduced to this concept by my college basketball coach, Fran Dunphy. At the time, I didn’t understand what he meant, and I never had the courage to ask. I feared looking like a fool. It was only after years of experience and overcoming many challenges that I started grasping the idea of what he was referring to.


“It’s not about you” is a reminder that success in any area of life is not only about your individual achievements but also about the collective effort and contributions of those around you. It is a recognition that we are all part of a larger community, and our actions can impact others. Successful athletes understand that they are part of a team, and their success is tied to the success of their teammates. Similarly, recognizing that your success is tied to the success of others can help you stay humble, grounded, and focused on the bigger picture.


Adopting these habits and behaviors of successful athletes can help you take control of your progress and level up your performance. By practicing positive self-talk, visualizing success, finding a larger purpose, tracking your progress, focusing on the process, and taking responsibility for your own success, you can achieve your goals and become the best version of yourself.


Remember, it’s never about you – success is a team effort, and we all need help along the way.

The Danger of Staying Comfortably Complacent: The Region Beta Paradox

Summary: Discover how the Region Beta Paradox keeps individuals trapped in comfortable complacency, hindering their growth and happiness. Learn to identify, reflect, and take action to escape this dangerous cycle and unlock your full potential. 4 Minute Read



The Region Beta Paradox


Do you ever find yourself in a situation where you know you are settling for less than you deserve but don’t do anything about it because it feels comfortable?


You may be working a job you don’t enjoy, but you are okay with the steady income and the routine of your daily life. You know this isn’t your dream career or what you envisioned for yourself, but the benefits are decent, and your boss isn’t too bad…


Or you may be in an unfulfilling relationship. You know deep down that the relationship is not working, but you are okay with the familiarity of your partner and maybe even fear being alone. The situation isn’t ideal, but it’s not tragic either…


This is known as the Region Beta Paradox. It refers to a phenomenon in which individuals settle for less than they deserve simply because they are comfortable with their current situation, even if it is not making them happy or fulfilled.


In essence, the Region Beta Paradox occurs when people stay within their comfort zone rather than taking action to change their circumstances because they do not perceive their situation as being bad enough to warrant a change.


The Danger of Staying in a Zone of Comfortable Complacency


This way of thinking is dangerous because it prevents individuals from reaching their full potential and can lead to a downward spiral that is hard to escape from. The longer we stay in that place of apparent comfort, the harder it becomes to get out.


I experienced this firsthand when I stayed in my career as a professional basketball player for longer than I should have, dealing with burnout and unhappiness. I would cry on my way to practice every day, but the salary was good, and in society’s terms, I was doing something many others would dream of doing. I let those thoughts prevent me from taking action for a long time, and the more I stayed in that zone, the harder it became to get out.


I fell into depression, and it took a tragic situation and the help of those around me to push myself to make a change.


What To Do About It


To identify if you are in a zone of comfortable complacency, ask yourself these questions:

  • Am I happy with my current situation?
  • Am I doing what I love daily?
  • Am I feeling fulfilled?


Be honest with yourself, and if the answer is no, then you may have some reflecting to do. Use reflection as the powerful tool it is to break free from this trap. Think about where you are, and ask yourself if staying there will help you become the person you aspire to be.


Don’t think in terms of goals; think in terms of the journey.


Is the journey toward your desired outcome going to help you become the type of person you want to be?

And is the place you find yourself in right now aligned with that idea?


Reflection Without Implementation Is Disguised Procrastination


The last step is to take action. This can be a difficult thing to do by yourself, especially if you’re already caught in that downward spiral. It may be beneficial to ask for help and professional guidance if you need it.


Try to find an accountability partner and put a plan together to get out of your zone of comfortable complacency. The best way to approach this situation is by taking little steps toward a much bigger and needed change in your life.


The Region Beta Paradox can be a dangerous trap that keeps us from reaching our full potential. Don’t let the fear of the unknown keep you from living the life you deserve. By identifying the trap, reflecting on your journey, and taking action, you can break free and reach your true potential.


We live in a time in which opportunities are all around us. There should be no reason for you to settle for mediocrity; you have a real opportunity to create something better for yourself and those around you.


Take control of your life and start making the changes you need to move closer to your ideal future.